What to do when your child doesn’t want to go to school?
When your child doesn’t want to go to school, the first step is to stay calm and gently explore the reason behind it. Avoid reacting with frustration or pressure—start by asking open-ended questions like, “Can you tell me what’s making you not want to go today?” or “Is there something happening at school that’s bothering you?” Sometimes the issue is as simple as being tired or missing home, but it can also be deeper, like trouble with friends, anxiety, or academic stress.
Once you understand the root of the problem, address it with empathy and support. If it’s emotional or social, like bullying or anxiety, talk to their teacher or school counselor to create a plan that helps your child feel safer and more comfortable. If it’s more routine-based—like not wanting to get up early—adjusting bedtime, morning routines, or giving gentle morning incentives (like breakfast choices or a reward for getting ready) can help shift their mindset.
Keep school attendance non-negotiable, but be compassionate. Let them know that it’s okay to feel upset or nervous, and reassure them that you’re there to help them through it. You can also give them something small to look forward to after school—like a playdate, favorite snack, or special activity. Sometimes just knowing they’re being heard and supported makes a big difference in how they cope with school-related stress.
Lastly, stay consistent. Avoid making staying home a habit unless your child is genuinely ill or needs a mental health break. Kids often test boundaries, especially if staying home feels like a reward. With patience, support, and collaboration between home and school, most school resistance can be worked through—and your child will begin to build the confidence and resilience they need to show up each day.
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