The dynamics between you and your parents change dramatically after you get married. It's the merger of two families, not just two people. parents frequently have a strong innate desire to mentor and care for their children, whether or not it is necessary. It is not as beneficial as people might think it is, though. Marital happiness begins to erode as a result of this unwanted help.
 
There is a wide range of interference; at times it is hardly perceptible, and at other times it can be quite oppressive. There are several ways in which the interference presents itself. It might be small yet annoying, as when they criticize the décor of your house and tell you what they think instead. Major intrusions also occur, including emotional pressure to have a grandchild by a certain date, disguised as their limited time on Earth.
 
Regardless of the extent of the interference, it strains your relationship by placing you and your spouse in an uncomfortable and unpleasant situation. Your independence is being intruded upon by the excessive involvement.
 
Parents think they can make better choices for you because of the life experiences they have acquired over the years. However, they grab the wheel and unintentionally sideline the couple in their own relationship. This calls into question the stability of the marriage, making it particularly challenging for your spouse to handle your parents' strict behavior.
 
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Parental meddling may be from natal parents or in-laws, trapping you and your partner in your union. Recognizing this could make for a difficult conversation. parents are idolized by their children, and discovering their negative characteristics may be upsetting. Speaking about your parents' failings might be difficult, particularly if they are more like friends to you. But hiding it under the rug and grinning won't make the issues go away. Repressed grudges can linger and gradually erode a marriage. Discuss the interference's worries and put them on the table, elaborating on how it affects each of you. Set restrictions on what subjects are acceptable to discuss and what must be avoided. After having this talk, you will both agree and be able to work together to save your marriage.
 
 
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S Venkateshwari

01/08/2024 11:58 AM